It seems that many women feel an escalating pressure to coordinate the ever-increasing components of her life, be the very best at each endeavor and strive to achieve even more. On the surface, this sounds like determination and self-improvement. But, are there other factors besides one's personality driving this internal struggle?
Perhaps this is a result of Western society's focus on status, its measurement of wealth and accomplishment, its ego. Perhaps our obsession with the idea that "bigger is better" is obligating women to continually vie for that corner office or the second job and to feel unsatisfied in the absence of that.
Why does there seem to be such a disparaging attitude towards women who, by choice or other obligations, step out of the work force to raise a family or run a household? Why is it that having a well-run said household, or even the best-dressed and well-behaved children, does not demand the same level of distinction or respect from society? From where does the stigma arise that sends fear into every stay-at-home-mother when she attempts to re-enter the paid working world and must "explain" her hiatus and therefore seeming lack of qualifications?
Is there a limit to this competition?
Is it possible to slow down and truly enjoy one's current situation for its unique benefits?
Is it unnatural for a woman to feel pulled in so many directions, wanting to feel successful in each aspect of life?
Is it necessary for a woman to change her personality simply to find satisfaction?
How does a woman calm the internal conflict which often arises when attempting to resolve these variables?
Is it wrong for a woman to Want It All, considering "It" may be any myriad combination of family, job and leisure which leads to personal satisfaction?
These are some of the issues I have struggled with since leaving my career more than five years ago to support my husband's new career. In that time, I have had incredible opportunities, for which I am very grateful, yet I still find myself with an unquenched inner voice seeking to reclaim and incorporate those aspects of my former life.
WHERE IS THE BALANCE ??
Join me as I attempt to find it...
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